Livestrong’s Blog featured this article a while back. It’s perfect for a Guy whose wife is expecting. Learn all about what you can expect in the next few months.
The first thing to expect from a pregnant wife is a lot of extra emotions. While her body is busy creating a tiny life inside her, women often feel “instability comparable to premenstrual syndrome, which may include irritability, mood swings, irrationality and weepiness” according to “What to Expect When You’re Expecting.” Generally the more PMS affects a woman, the more pregnancy will too. Not only are her emotions on a roller coaster, but her body is quickly enlarging in all sorts of places and her confidence can either increase with the joy of pregnancy or decrease as she feels fat.
During the nine months of pregnancy, your wife’s uterus will increase to five times its normal size, and she will experience many other physical changes. Most first-time moms begin to show around four to five months, but before then she will gain weight all over to help her body design her tiny child. According to Discovery Health, she has a 20 percent to 40 percent increase in blood supply volume. Her changing metabolism can cause her to crave certain foods and need more calories.
Sex Life Changes
Many spouses enjoy the fact that increased blood flow often causes women to want sex more, and her breasts will slowly enlarge to almost gigantic by the time her milk comes in after delivery. Sex is a tricky thing during pregnancy, though. Your wife might crave sex more at certain times and then lose interest due to hormonal changes and an overwhelming tiredness. Increase your physical and emotional affection to help her feel extra connected and appreciated at such a demanding time in her life. The more helpful and loving you are, the more intimate she will feel.
Trying to support a pregnant woman can sometimes feel very isolating; all the attention is on her, and you might feel constantly expected to cater to her every need. While it is extremely important for the health of your relationship to support her, it is also important for her to recognize your needs. If you begin to feel abandoned by her, remember she is going through a major change and her maternal instincts are beginning to form. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t speak up. She might be so focused on herself and her pregnancy that she truly doesn’t mean to be less attentive. Communicate your needs to her.
Anxiety of Childbirth
The anticipation of childbirth starts almost as soon as she is pregnant. Your wife might be simultaneously fearful and excited about childbirth. It’s important to listen to her emotions and be as empathetic as possible. Assure her that you’ll be right there with her. Offer to take her to the bookstore for childbirth books and be open to her request for childbirth classes. Author Pam England says “The profound mystery and spirituality of birth can never be understood with the mind; they are known through the heart.” Be excited to be on this journey with your wife.